Signs Of A Cheater
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Your spouse is acting differently, but you just can't put your finger on why. Then, their cell phone rings in the middle of the night and they don't have a good explanation. We've all heard the "they blame you for cheating" and "My spouse’s cell phone has a password on it" behaviors of cheaters, but those are the obvious shifts.
1. Your spouse strays from his predictable everyday behavior.
After spending time with someone for a number of months (or even years), you know their typical behavior. You know how they act in certain situations, and when they act differently you want an explanation — if not cheating, then something else real and tangible. Dirty Deeds Investigations can determine the reality of the situation.
2. Your spouse has unpredictable mood swings.
Being angry in an instant or being overly nice is a red flag. There's no real reason for them to leave, so they have to create one. New activities, such as going out all the time (but never mentioning it until afterward) is a glaring example. If they were going somewhere and had no reason to hide it, they would most likely talk about it with you.
3. Your spouse has a rapid change in weight or appearance.
Cheating spouses change physically. Their love handles disappear, their posture changes and their muscle tone/definition returns. It's the body's primal means of preparing for courtship. They are readying themselves to attract a mate. In addition, cheating spouses start taking much better care of themselves and take a lot of pride in their appearance. They’re suddenly pressing their clothes and shaving daily when they didn't before, especially when leaving the house without you.
4. They suddenly need a lot of privacy.
To take time for one's self is normal. But when it's out of the normal pattern or is more and more frequent, it's a sign that something else is going on. Going into work early, leaving late, getting off the phone suddenly, and taking lots of private calls from a "relative" (mom, sister, someone untraceable) are also red flags.
5. They have a drastic change in sexual appetite and style.
A sudden shift in what's "regular" or familiar in bed without discussing wanting something new is a big warning sign of cheating. Often the cheater will have in increase interest in trying new things that our out of character. They can also have a decrease in sexual appetite towards their partners because their needs are met elsewhere.
6. They hide their financial history from you.
Most cheaters will need an untraceable way to pay for things: gifts, meals, hotels, trips, etc. Reloadable credit cards, PayPal accounts, and eBay purchases are all great ways to hide large or frequent transactions. Definitely investigate large, random transfers or cash withdrawals.
7. He's secretive with his technology.
Technology is now smarter and affairs have gone high-tech. A new password on their cell phone or computer, a change of password at your bank or cell phone company, or cell phones being "left in the car" are valid signs of infidelity.
Cheaters tend to fly under the radar by using technology to do their communication dirty work. Apps exist that allow text messages, online chat sessions and pictures to last for a certain amount of time and then they disappear. Pay attention to new email accounts and new apps being used on cell phones.